How a Con person's mind works

Con people make money through deception. They lie, cheat and fool people into thinking they've happened onto a great deal or some easy money when ­they're the ones who'll be making money. If that doesn't work, they'll take advantage of your weaknesses -- loneliness, insecurity, poor health or simple ignorance. The only thing more important to a con person than perfecting a con is perfecting a total lack of conscience.

What does the average con person look like? Despite what you may think, he or she isn't always a shady-looking character. A con person is an expert at looking however he needs to look. If the con involves banking or investments, the con artist will wear a snappy suit. If it involves home improvement scams, he'll show up wearing well-worn work clothes. Even the basic assumption that the con is a "he" is incorrect: there are plenty of con women too.

You might think you can spot a con artist because he's someone you instinctively "don't trust." But the term con artist is short for confidence artist -- they gain your confidence just long enough to get their hands on your money. They can be very charming and persuasive. A good con artist can even make you believe he is really an old friend you haven't seen in years.

 Con people do share certain characteristics, however. Even the best con can only go on for so long before people start getting suspicious. For that reason, con people tend to move frequently. They may have a job that allows this, or they might claim to have such a job. A store manager, marketing manager or whatsoever worker and traveling salesman are all parts con people play to cover up their constant relocations.

It would be impo­ssible to catalog every con because con people are inventive. While many cons are simply variations on ones that are hundreds of years old, new technologies and laws give con artists the opportunity to create original scams. Many cons tend to fall into a few general categories, however: street cons, marriage cons, business cons, Internet cons, loan cons, and home improvement cons.

How to Avoid a Con

Sometimes it seems like the world is full of people constantly trying to get their hands on your money. But there are a few things to remember that will help make you resistant to most cons:

•  You never get something for nothing. There's an old saying: "You can't cheat an honest man." Most cons rely on the victim's own greed. Con people know that people often throw caution to the wind when they start seeing dollar signs. Deals that sound too good to be true usually are.
• Guard your personal information. Especially guard your Social Security number, credit card numbers and bank account numbers. We have to use these numbers in many of our daily transactions, but if you are asked for any of this information, be absolutely sure that the person doing the asking is someone you can trust or works for a reputable company.
• Don't accept solicitations. Whether you get a cold call for an investment opportunity or someone comes to your door offering to do home repairs, hang up the phone and close the door. While there may be legitimate businesses that go door-to-door or make cold calls to find customers, they are few and far between.
• Watch for signs. Con people often give themselves away if you ask enough questions. Ask for some kind of written documentation of their offer. Check for a real address, not a P.O. Box. Ask to see a driver's license, and write down the information on it. Write down license plate numbers, and make sure the con person sees you doing it. If it's a legitimate offer, he won't mind. Tell him you need to think the deal over for at least a few days before making a decision. A con artist will often pressure you to make a decision on the spot -- often using hard-sell tactics, such as saying that the deal won't last. They may get nervous when you ask for something in writing, and will usually refuse to provide it. When someone wants your money, if the offer is legitimate, it will still be around next week.

If You've Been Conned

The most street-wise person can get taken in by a con. If you've been victimized, what should you do?

• Con people count on their victims feeling foolish and afraid to report the scam. But if you remain silent about being conned, you're letting the con person move on to steal from others. Write down every detail you can remember as soon as possible, while it's fresh in your memory. Collect any documented evidence you might have as well. This includes receipts, contracts or even your own phone records.
• Now it's time to contact the authorities. You may have to do some legwork to find the right agency or someone who is willing to help you. Your local police department may have a special division assigned to fraud cases. Also, contact your local police. Get in touch with the Better Business Bureau and see if there are any other reports of the same con person -- this could help you and the police track him down. Many scams also fall under the jurisdiction of certain federal agencies. If you really reach a dead end, try your local TV news stations. Many have segments where a reporter tracks down a con person and demands answers, and a con person hates the spotlight.

Rab Rakha!!!!!

Husband and wife is a relationship like you see yourself in mirror

A lot of times when I write on relationships, I get comments that I write about “ideal” or “unrealistic” couples. But I always write what I think to be true, and the kind of relationship you would want to invest in personally. So maybe after reading this answer, many will feel the same, so I would kindly request you all to read this seriously and only settle for a partner who passes in at least half of these parameters.

• A healthy relationship is where neither the husband nor the wife brings back the matters of past and taunt each other regularly for the past mistakes that were committed.
• A healthy relationship is where neither the husband nor the wife stops the other one to carry out his/her responsibilities towards parents or siblings. A mature husband-wife understands the value of family. Neither the husband expects the wife to forget her family, neither the wife expects the husband to leave his family as she did.
• A healthy relationship is where there is communication. The husband and wife both discuss almost everything with each other before taking any decision. They also communicate about their problems, their emotions, their needs, and desires.
• A healthy relationship is where there is no cheating involved of any kind.
• A healthy relationship is where the husband can cook meals and the wife can pay bills if the need arises.
• A healthy relationship is where the husband or wife doesn't need to lie or hide about their money or property from each other. If you cannot trust your life partner that much, why marry them
• A healthy relationship is where both husband and wife bring up their children equally.
• A healthy relationship is where if one partner says “let's buy this saree for Mom”, the other one has to specifically ask to clarify, “Mine or yours?”
• A healthy relationship is where the husband's success becomes the wife's success and the wife's success becomes the husband's success.
• A healthy relationship is where both stick with each other in the lowest of times, in the worst of times, when the world is against them.
• A healthy relationship is where both can cry their hearts out and tell all their secrets without having the fear of being judged or laughed upon.
• A healthy relationship is where both understand that there would be fights and disagreements, but still love each other enough to forgive and forget.
• A healthy relationship is where both respect and value each other.
• A healthy relationship is where there is no ego of being a man or a woman.
• A healthy relationship is where none is keeping a score of how much they're doing for the other one.
• A healthy relationship is where both are committed and ready for compromises and sacrifices.
• A healthy relationship is where both grow old together, who love each other enough to complete this long journey of life even after several ups and downs and never leave each other, till death do them apart.

So if you have met someone who passes even half of these points, you're lucky. And for the rest, don't lose hope, who knows you might find someone like that tomorrow itself.

Rab Rakha!!!!!