How to stop giving a flying fuck about what others think of you

We're all guilty. Every day from the moment we wake up, we live our lives caring what other people think of us. We accept the status quo for what it is because everyone around us does. We tiptoe our way through life by doing things in order to please others, not because it's what we believe in. Eventually, our actions, appearances, and lives become molded by how we think other people perceive us. How are these pants going to make me look? What will my colleagues think if I spoke out? Are those people talking shit behind my back? If I take this job, what will my friends and family think of me?

Living a life that follows the idyllic notions of what other people think is a terrible way to live. It makes you become the spineless spectator who waits for other people to take action first. It makes you become a hanger-on. Worst of all, it makes you become someone who doesn't take a stand for anything. Today is the last day we live a life verbalized by others. Today, we're going to get to the bottom of the truth. Today is the day we stop giving a Fuck

Believe it or not, we're not that special. We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is those people are thinking the exact same thing. No one in today's "smartphone crazed" society has time in their schedule to think more than a brief second about us. The fact of the matter is, when we do have time get our thoughts straight, we're too busy thinking about ourselves and our own shortcomings, not others.

A study was done by the National Science Foundation claims that people have, on average, 50,000 plus thoughts a day. This means that even if someone thought about us ten times in one day, it's only 0.02% of their overall daily thoughts. It is a sad but simple truth that the average person filters their world through their ego, meaning that they think of most things relating to "me" or "my." This means that unless you have done something that directly affects another person or their life, they are not going to spend much time thinking about you at all. Even when provided with the blatantly obvious opportunity to judge someone, people are still thinking about how others may perceive them. Once you understand that this is how people's minds work, it's a big step towards freedom.

It's impossible to live up to everyone's expectations. There will always be people—no matter what we say or how we treat them—that will judge us. Whether you're at the gym, at work, taking the train, or even online playing pubg, scrabble, etc. Even now it's happening. You will never be able to stop people from judging you, but you can stop it from affecting you.

Think about the worst thing that could possibly happen when someone is judging you or what you're doing. I guarantee that chances are nothing will happen. Absolutely nothing. No one is going to go out of their busy lives to confront us, or even react for that matter. Because as I mentioned before, no one actually cares. What will happen is that these people will actually respect you for claiming your ground. They may disagree with you, but they'll respect you.

Start standing up for what you believe in causes, opinions, anything. You're going to have people that disagree with you anyways, so why not express how you truly feel? I've learned that it's better to be loved by a few people you care about than to be liked by everyone. These are family, friends, your spouse the people who love you for who you are, and the people who will be there for you during your worst times. Focus on these people. They're the only people that matter.

The world is already full of people who obey the status quo. But the people who don't give a fuck are the ones that change the world. Be the latter. Start living life the way you want, be daring like you once were as a child, and always, always stand up for the truth. Someone has to.

Rab Rakha!!!!!

Know your worth, hold your own power, be you.

I read this somewhere and I wanted to pen this on my blog right away.

For a long time in my 20’s and even into my 30’s, I was continuously chasing after people and friendships and things I thought were going to make me happy. A beautiful thing happened when I stopped the pursuit of happiness: I realized it had been here all along.

Now I just stay in one place and trust that the people and opportunities meant to be in my life will flow to me naturally and with straightforwardness and inevitability. I have solely and completely embraced I spending time with myself is something I actually apprize and look after now instead of run from. I haven’t “arrived” by any expanse of the imagination…but I have, at long last, reached a place of peace about the value that I possess and that I bring to other people’s lives and I no longer feel the need to chase anyone down to force them to see it. Because here’s the bottom line: If they can’t see the beauty and joy and richness that you bring into their life, they don’t belong in yours.

So stop careering today and standstill. I think you’ll be startled at how eloquent and purposeful your life will become the very minute you stop trying to prove your meaning and purpose to others. You need to love yourself. Love yourself so much to the point that your energy and aura rejects anyone who doesn’t know your worth.

Rab Rakha!!!!!