We're all guilty. Every day from
the moment we wake up, we live our lives caring what other people think of us. We
accept the status quo for what it is because everyone around us does. We tiptoe our way through life by doing things in order to please others, not because
it's what we believe in. Eventually, our actions, appearances, and lives become molded
by how we think other people perceive us. How are these pants going to make me
look? What will my colleagues think if I spoke out? Are those people talking
shit behind my back? If I take this job, what will my friends and family think
of me?
Living a life that follows the idyllic
notions of what other people think is a terrible way to live. It makes you
become the spineless spectator who waits for other people to take action first.
It makes you become a hanger-on. Worst of all, it makes you become someone who
doesn't take a stand for anything. Today is the last day we live a life verbalized
by others. Today, we're going to get to the bottom of the truth. Today is the
day we stop giving a Fuck
Believe it or not, we're not that
special. We go through our days thinking about how other people might be
judging us. But the truth is those people are thinking the exact same thing. No
one in today's "smartphone crazed" society has time in their schedule
to think more than a brief second about us. The fact of the matter is, when we
do have time get our thoughts straight, we're too busy thinking about ourselves
and our own shortcomings, not others.
A study was done by the National
Science Foundation claims that people have, on average, 50,000 plus thoughts a
day. This means that even if someone thought about us ten times in one day,
it's only 0.02% of their overall daily thoughts. It is a sad but simple truth
that the average person filters their world through their ego, meaning that
they think of most things relating to "me" or "my." This
means that unless you have done something that directly affects another person
or their life, they are not going to spend much time thinking about you at all.
Even when provided with the blatantly obvious opportunity to judge someone,
people are still thinking about how others may perceive them. Once you
understand that this is how people's minds work, it's a big step towards
freedom.
It's impossible to live up to
everyone's expectations. There will always be people—no matter what we say or
how we treat them—that will judge us. Whether you're at the gym, at work,
taking the train, or even online playing pubg, scrabble, etc. Even now it's
happening. You will never be able to stop people from judging you, but you can
stop it from affecting you.
Think about the worst thing that
could possibly happen when someone is judging you or what you're doing. I
guarantee that chances are nothing will happen. Absolutely nothing. No one is
going to go out of their busy lives to confront us, or even react for that matter.
Because as I mentioned before, no one actually cares. What will happen is that
these people will actually respect you for claiming your ground. They may
disagree with you, but they'll respect you.
Start standing up for what you
believe in causes, opinions, anything. You're going to have people that
disagree with you anyways, so why not express how you truly feel? I've learned
that it's better to be loved by a few people you care about than to be liked
by everyone. These are family, friends, your spouse the people who love you for
who you are, and the people who will be there for you during your worst times.
Focus on these people. They're the only people that matter.
The world is already full of
people who obey the status quo. But the people who don't give a fuck are the
ones that change the world. Be the latter. Start living life the way you want,
be daring like you once were as a child, and always, always stand up for the
truth. Someone has to.
Rab Rakha!!!!!
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