Why do so many people feel the
need to make fun of and judge others? This question crosses my mind daily. I
wonder why we, as humans, feel the need to judge and degrade others. Its human
nature to compare ourselves to others, whether it’s to our family members,
peers or even celebrities we see in the media. We base our judgments of
ourselves and others on these comparisons. Judging others sometimes gives
people a sense of prestige because belittling others can create a false sense
of security and identity. When it comes down to it, people are different. No
two people are completely alike. We need to accept these differences and stop
judging people. It is hurtful to them and makes the people ridiculing them look
bad. Even if one does not verbalize their judgments, it does not mean their
insensitive thoughts are acceptable. It goes with the saying: If you don’t have
anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
A famous quote by American author
Dave Barry goes: “There’s nothing wrong with enjoying looking at the surface of
the ocean itself, except that when you finally see what goes on underwater, you
realize that you’ve been missing the whole point of the ocean. Staying on the
surface all the time is like going to the circus and staring at the outside of
the tent.”
The world has seen efficacious people having multiple personas and charismas which are unbelievably inimitable.
Every person has different potentials. Our current generation has become very
judgemental in its approach towards people around them, which has resulted in
constant criticism about people’s nature or quality. Why do we always look to
find ways to bring someone down, just because of a few of negative attributes him
or she has?
No matter where we travel, our
nature and time have made it such that we mostly end up seeing others, as a machine that produces mistakes. For example, let’s highlight people’s
understanding of various personality traits - as according to society, it is
something which helps one gain an understanding of another individual. For
instance, just because a person may tend to be voluble in nature, many people
seem to classify this person as incorrect or imprudent, whereas in reality, he
or she could be a highly intelligent person who could know more than what
people think.
On the other hand, some people
feel that introverts or people who are socially wary and find it difficult to
talk to other people, are useless and won’t offer any help or give any advice
in certain situations. However, it is true that each one of us is unique and
have our own choices and preferences about people who we choose to surround
ourselves with. But what has to be understood is that we need to stop being so
critical and stop judging every personality. Instead, we need to start
exploring and learning about what each one has to offer.
As St Mother Teresa once said,
‘If we keep judging everyone, we won’t have time to love anyone.’ We need to
look towards this mantra and reflect. We need to think about our lives if we
had followed this earlier. Surely our life would be happier and peaceful. It
would be something more beautiful for each person to cherish.
Finally, as educated people, and
respected people - whose main aim and purpose is to be a good human being and
to realize that judging, and criticizing other people’s nature and faults, is
not the way to become a good person. Only values have the answer. Always
remember, treat others how you want to be treated.
Rab Rakha!!!!!
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