“Taking
time for ourselves may seem selfish, as though we're avoiding our significant
other,” “In reality, brief periods of solitude rejuvenate our soul batteries
and allow to give even more to our spouses and to the relationship itself.” What
they don't tell you about being 30-something is that it's OK to be egocentric
sometimes. You're chasing after your own dreams and creating a path. You'll
need a lot of "Me time" to figure it all out. There's a lot of heaviness
that comes with surrounding yourself with people. You might not feel like you
can totally be yourself, or find that you're following a crowd into a Friday or
Saturday night plan you seriously didn't sign up for. That's why "Me
time" in your 30s is so vital, and something we should always make room
for in our diaries.
What
you want becomes what is just next on your agenda. You start to lose interest
in the things you used to love because you can’t enjoy them anymore as you are
constantly moving to the next activity. Your career already expects so much of
you but when you pile on a social life you lose the time for you to do what you
want to do because you conform to what is on your itinerary. Whether that may
be reading, writing, going on a run, painting, etc. It’s vital to take even an
hour every day to be alone and focus on yourself. You stop taking the steps to
take care of yourself because you no longer think about what you need to do in
order to be the best you. We often feel so guilt-ridden when we need to
separate ourselves from the rest of the world just to take a step back and
focus on our lives. But if we can’t be 100% in fine fettle or at least striving
to be, healthy relationships and positive thinking are nearly impossible to
obtain.
The
point of “me” time is less of what activities you want to be a part of and more
of having time set aside to focus on yourself. It’s okay to stay in when
everyone else is going out just to enjoy your own company. You need to be your
own best advocate and friend. While you may have friends who you enjoy being
around, it’s not an insult to say no to being with them when you are aware
you’re not feeling well enough. In fact, saying no to someone just to have “me”
time means you are strong enough to be alone without fear of judgment or
worthlessness. It’s important to have activities that you can enjoy, but it’s
not okay to only fill your time up with those. If the people around you are
true and worthwhile, they will understand when you say you need time for
yourself. They will understand when you say you cannot go out for a night. They
will not only accept that but they will also cherish the fact that you care
enough about yourself. It’s always motivational when you care enough about yourself
to know that you are worth it and can love being alone.
The most important thing in life is you. Not that you are the center of the universe or that you are above anyone else, but when you start to put other
things before yourself, you curtail how important you justly are and how much
love you deserve. Even though you might not feel as if you’re worth it, you are
worth a gold medal for being you. Or maybe you do know how much you’re substance.
In that case, you are kicking ass. However, it’s important to be outside of
yourself so you don’t become narrow-minded. Justin Vernon stated, “There’s only
so much time digging through yourself before you become insular”. That
basically means that there’s only so much time you can spend focusing on
yourself before you shut yourself out from the world. Therefore, it’s not that
you need to constantly be doing hard work on yourself and focusing on problems.
Life’s greatest gifts come from knowing the importance of laughter and love.
However, you do need to listen to your needs and then actually fulfill them.
Loving
yourself should be the calmest thing. You get to own your culpabilities and timidities. You get to dare yourself to be better and to focus on your
own prerequisites. You get to take care of yourself before
anyone else does.
Happy
me signing of….:)
Rab
Rakha!!!!!
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