Art of Indifference

I think it is a curse to feel things strongly. To not be able to do something without investing your entire being in it. I know the process of building walls but once I allow someone through those doors, I don’t know how not to let myself be affected by them. How not to give everything I have, every thought, every moment and want a few in return.

 

I candidly wish that I knew how to merely float through life, without being affected by it. To love without wanting to be loved as ardently in return. To give attention without seeking it. I wish I were unmoved. Not so completely involved. I wish things or people did not affect me like they do. Or if that is asking the impossible, I wish I were smart enough to make-believe so without the truth reflecting on my face and in my words. 

 

Rab Rakha!!!!!

 

 

 

 

Approaching Confines....

Let’s just ignore the fact that I haven’t blogged in ages. Deal?

Deal.

Moving on…

I've been trying to push the boundaries of my placate zones in different aspects of my life. With any task, I can usually go only so far and pinball around in my own small space of acquaintance. I glance off off the same ideas over and over. But, how long before I hit TILT?

I've always fancied myself a bit of a chameleon. I take bits of what I see and know to help myself evolve. The problem is, I’m not finding my own way. When I recently started a project journal, I decided to stop allowing the lined pages confine me. I’m varying the size of my print, the margins and using words to carve pictures. For every little step across a line, I feel a little more liberated. And also a bit more inspired.

Creativity is something I always envy in others. Whether it’s writing, art, cooking, fashion, anything really. I’m always thinking, I wish I had that cleverness. Now, I do think that this is not always a learned thing. Some people are just born with that door open. However, I don’t like limits and I do believe that you can be taught, accustomed, to a certain degree.

So this is my current self-improvement project. Pushing my boundaries. Letting my brain forget about common practices and finding what works for me. I’m hoping to pick up some forgotten art projects to give me a push in the right direction.

Even if your goal is to write, exercising your mind in other areas helps you branch out. If I can pick up a project, I can look at it and see how to make it better. I can dig in and clip here, add there. The same goes for my writing. Editing is like pruning the rose bush. Or adding a red stripe to that abstract painting. And the more I push my creativity, the better that final product is going to be. 

Rab Rakha!!!!!

Creating ties...

Most of us need and want more connection and closeness with those in our lives. However, we have many things that keep us separate and distant from them.

What creates closeness and loving connections with those we love?

There are many theories and methods people have touted as keys to creating loving and close relationships.

It is being validated and being heard.

Sounds simple and easy doesn’t it.  Just listen to your loved ones.

However, it is not so easy to really listen, given our life that we create around us.

In order to create closeness and truly listen, I must stop what I’m doing and tune in to the other person.

This requires 100% presence and not holding my cell phone, checking emails, cooking dinner, working, doing laundry, thinking about what I have to do after this conversation or listening to music.

Tuning in to the moment and being fully here now is the one way  you can create.

It also requires that you don’t interrupt and try to fix the problem yourself or fix the person in that moment.  It means listening and hearing the person.

How often do people you love actually sit with you and truly give you their undivided attention and hear what you are saying?

This is a gift that brings the closeness you are seeking.

Remember a time when you felt heard and understood?  Remember the positive sensations that ran through you and how you felt about that person following that experience?

Being heard and validated for our own experience is the most powerful gift of love there is.  For actions always speak louder than words.

So next time don’t just say I love you.  Show them you love them by tuning in, really listening and give the present of your presence.

Rab Rakha!!!!!