Sunday, June 29, 2025

“Bura Na Maano, Nazar Lag Gayi Hai”: Why Silence is Golden Until It’s Done




“Kaam hone se pehle kisi ko mat batana… nazar lag jaati hai.” An old-school Indian saying that’s been passed down like family recipes and wedding jewellery. And you know what? For the longest time, I rolled my eyes at it. Superstition much? But the older (and ahem, wiser) I get, the more I’ve started noticing —It’s not just an old lady’s tale wrapped in masala and melodrama. It’s reality. Sprinkled with a heavy dose of energy dynamics. And a dash of good old’ desi jealousy.

We Indians & Our Success Stories. Let’s be honest —We Indians don’t just believe in success.

  • We celebrate it like a full-blown Bollywood production:
  • In a designer lehenga,
  • With 300 guests, A DJ and dhol combo,
  • Haldi, phoolon ki chadar,
  • And four curated Instagram reels (with trending audio, obviously).

But here’s the kicker: The moment you announce something before it’s done —A new job, a rishta, a start-up plan, a trip abroad it’s like the universe hits pause.

Why Does This Happen?

Because somewhere, someone — probably sipping their third chai while doom-scrolling your Insta stories — is whispering:

“Haww, kaise ho gaya isse? Mere saath toh aisa kabhi nahi hota.” Boom.

  • Nazar activated.
  • Energy transferred.
  • Plans derailed.
  • And you’re left wondering:
  • Why did your Dubai trip get cancelled?
  • Why your “almost final” interview ghosted you.
  • Why your startup partner suddenly turned into a ghost of their former, enthusiastic self.

Welcome to the Nazar Syndrome Club. We’ve all experienced this:

🏠 Shared a new house deal → Two days later, the builder backs out.

πŸ’Ό Talked about a job switch → Suddenly, the offer is “on hold.”

πŸ’” Flaunted a new relationship → Next week, single and quoting Arijit Singh at midnight.

Coincidence? Maybe. But energy? Very, very real. And in a country where mangoes are eaten with mantras and temples are consulted before buying a car, isn’t it perfectly believable that thoughts carry power?

The Science of Silence (with a Dash of Sass) Here’s what I’ve learned from my many trips around the Nazar block:

  • Not everyone clapping for you is genuinely happy for you.
  • Some people attend your success party just to steal your WiFi… and your peace.
  • Your glow-up might just be someone else’s glow-down.

So, what do the wise do?

  • They zip it.
  • They slay silently.
  • And they post after the passport stamp, not before.

Because in the land of chashm-e-baddoor, kaala teekas, and lemon-chilli totkas —Silence isn’t just classy. It’s protective gear.

Desi Survival Tips 101. Want to avoid the dreaded nazar spiral? Here’s how:

✔️ Let your results speak louder than your status updates.

✔️ Manifest in silence. Execute in stealth.

✔️ Share only with those who don’t need a black thread tied around their thoughts.

The Bottom Line?

Next time you’re tempted to post, announce, or broadcast something before it’s signed, sealed, and delivered…Pause. And remember this modern-day desi mantra:

“Apna kaam banta, bhaad mein jaaye Insta.”

Because in this beautifully chaotic country of ours, sometimes it’s not the problem that’s big —it’s just the number of people watching it happen.

So: Zip it. Work it.Win it. And when it’s done?

Flaunt it like the desi royalty you are —with filters, flair, and zero fear.

Rab Rakha!!!!!πŸ‘️πŸ§ΏπŸ’«

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