Everyone has lumps, bumps, and rolls. It means you are human.

Aren't we concerned about looks? Why is it that we care? Why are we trapped in looks and missing the person under the face mask? We neglect what lies under the mask, what lies within the heart and mind, what lays within the psyche. Body shame is the act in which we blame people for their physical appearance; we condemn them because they do not meet the socially constructed predetermined expectations of attractiveness. They're not 'fair and stunning' or 'slim and sleek,' and so forth. It's a type of violence that mentally torments you and is common.

The culture recognizes the color, form, and size of the body as the basis for beauty and ugliness. Both men and women are ashamed of their bodies. A boy with a physique that makes him appear strong is supposed to be big and muscular. In India, a girl should be tall, shallow with a skin of zero acne and body hair. When anyone falls from this group (like most people, since we are human), they are continually mocked and encouraged to change their appearance.

Even though body shame affects both men and women, it is extra stressful baggage for women in a patriarchal society like India. The remedies for impeccable skin include measures such as turmeric paste, aloe vera gel, waxing, face masks, and a thousand other things. If a girl is fat, she is advised everything ranging from avoiding rice and potatoes to liposuction surgery. We've reached a stage in which fat shaming almost has become synonymous with body-shaming, but slim girls aren't out! Even girls that are short are shamed that they are too slim and advised to wear full-sleeved clothing that does not make their so-called 'fault' noticeable. A man who does not match these social expectations of a perfect body will receive all sorts of criticisms and suggestions.

Earlier, being fat was a symbol of being wealthy and belonging to a prosperous family but times have changed, being svelte is chic now. Now, be it any of the genders, sweltering it out in the gym is the vogue. Be it the relatives who tell you to look pretty in order to get married or the shopkeepers who refer you the dress which will hide those curvatures, everyone is always upholding how to not feel good in your own skin. Also, the jokes cracked of pregnancy about fat women aren’t funny at all.

Media has been instrumental in fostering the culture of body shaming, despite all the unrealistic and almost impossible expectations of beauty that Bollywood has set over the years. Many cosmetics ads tell us how it is vital to walk after a fairer skin for a job and / or confidence, while other food product ads remind us of how necessary it is to lose fat within 25 days to look good in a group.

With the increasing use of social media, body shaming is now all-time high. People get behind the computer and post negative comments and think that no one's going to harm just a comment. But we're a generation of social media addicts, every harmful comment you post troubles, someone. While we're making a comment about someone's physique, we often overlook the fact that the remark doesn't change their bodies, but it has the power to affect someone so extremely that they can be depressed.

Body shaming can lead to an inferiority complex, decreased confidence, eating disorders, and other such issues. It can cause insecurities that lead to troubled relationships. There is a chance that the victim may feel too self-conscious and withdraw from social situations. We must be more mature, understanding and empathy instead of criticizing people just because they do not look like we want them to. Don't be a harasser and don't let anyone even shame your body.

Rather of listening to suggestions from people who don't know either you or your body, we need to follow a safe lifestyle. Sure, obesity is a concern, it is a health risk and exercise is important to decrease health risks, but it is completely inappropriate to blame someone for being overweight. Let us not forget that it is the person who decides the actions of a person in his / her life and not the fat of the body. The requirements to determine someone's characters or ability cannot be form, size, color, and levels of capability.

A lingerie line, composed of lingerie's of all sizes, has just been launched by Rihanna to allow the body to become optimistic. Actresses like Vidya Balan and Sonakshi Sinha are stunning examples of women who didn't let their careers be governed by the size-zero stereotype. Although important changes are taking place, there is still a long way to go. Let us be relaxed in our skin, take a little while, and let us encourage others to do the same thing. It is your own body, and no one, other than you, can judge or understand. Let's be trusting, caring and tolerant. Let us live, let others live, let others live.

Rab Rakha!!!!!

Two faced people are more dangerous than fiction.

We must once have met a two-sided, clever person, not a false acquaintance of ours, or relatives. You claim to be near and concerned about you, but in all cases secretly. Often you mistakenly believe them, and you're sorry. It will be more difficult for us to assess face to face.

These two-faced people have a common attribute of being too courteous, above what you expect. If you talk to them first, you will feel fine. You're going to feel like a normal human. In a single moment, you will note them, but you may not know when you are slipping downwards. Don't get me wrong, those people noticed more and even businesses, families or in your neighborhood.

A good friend or relative knocked on your door two faces if you notice someone of sudden politeness at any moment. You'll know if you recall the last time you felt this. You would have recognized the case because they are two-eyed people who have been well-attached. "They say good stuff to your name, and then inform some negative things to you, because you aren't there." We want an enemy who admits who hates me rather than a friend or relative who secretly puts us down.

“Being nice to people is not called two-faced, it’s called growing up… but being nice to people in front of their faces and spreading nasty talks behind them is called two-faced”. How can people have two identities in our society? We may need special glasses to identify these people as everywhere we look people are two-faced.

Most of us may be scared to think about a ghost when we were a child, but as we grew up; we found that two-faced people are more frightening than a ghost. We may be used to thinking that enemies are the worst people in the world, but that was until we met two-faced people and realized that they were a lot worse. It's always a good thing to have fake people in this world; it helps you find out who your real friends are.

I hate when people say that they hate someone, and then they're going to hang out with them. I realized that these people are applying the formula of division and rule everywhere around them. You can't create a conflict with this person as they would do more damage, so it's best to distance yourself from these parasites. It is easier to stay quiet and away from the two smart creatures your mental well-being.

Have you ever learned that if we talk to each other rather than speak about each other, a lot of problems would vanish? You can't change other people-until they have changed, but you can keep your mind alert. Never have your pretty words or deeds swayed by them.

"The saddest thing about deceit is that it rarely comes from your enemies ... It's from friends and loved ones." 

Rab Rakha!!!!!