Okay, here is a hard one to learn; we can’t change others but
we can change ourselves. Why do I say it is hard? Because we are so
attached to proving our genuineness, intent or evenhandedness, that we keep coming up with different ways to
make our point even if every attempt only brings us aggravation and disenchantment.
There is nothing wrong with trying to commune
our thoughts and feelings but what becomes a waste is when it is obvious that
the recipient is not ready or doesn’t want to see things in a different
way. They are stuck in their position and methodology and they are not
going to change no matter what we do.
So when we come to that point, then it
is time to let go and change our retort and outlook. Continuing doing the
same reaching out or trying to come up with different ways to still make our
point, becomes a manifestation of our own powerlessness to accept that which we
have no control. I know it is excruciating because none of us want to
give up on having optimistic communication and interaction but again sometimes
it’s just not possible. Once we accept that as a fact then it is time to
stop trying and embrace things as they are.
That’s when our own transformation
takes place. We stop trying and we shield ourselves from the unremitting prejudice.
We change our behavior to stop our expectations and we accept realism. In
time the aggravation diminishes and the possibility of a different connection
opens up. Trusting the procedure allows for different outcomes, maybe not
the ones we hoped for, but one of less rage, hassle, and nuisance.
Rab Rakha!!!!!
