Living well is the best revenge

You thought of her/him as a friend and ally, but by resorting to underhanded tactics that made you look bad, backstabbing became the only word to define her actions. Backstabbing friends or colleagues are a part of life, and the act itself happens to nearly everyone at some point in life. The betrayal of a trusted friend or colleague inflicts pain and hurt. Why People Backstab Reasons why people backstab others range from cowardice to a need for power. The sole purpose of backstabbing is gaining the upper hand and garnering power. Backstabbing is not limited to one individual or another.

Backstabbing at Work: It is far easier to understand why co-workers or colleagues revert to backstabbing antics rather than a friend. Colleagues wish to gain notice from superiors and put themselves in position for advancement. Backstabbing in the office is a scheme to make you look bad and the backstabber appears better. Lies and deception are the tools of a backstabbing co-worker on a mission to prove how inept you are at your job. There are many ways people backstab others at work. After completing a group project, one person may complain to a superior about how difficult it was to work with the group and that so-and-so lacked focus. By criticizing other people, the backstabber feels better about herself. Backstabbing may be nothing more than idle gossip about you to other co-workers. Using every occasion to bring attention to your faults or weaknesses is a mean-spirited tactic. Offering to complete a project or task assigned to another co-worker is one such tactic. Although it makes the backstabber look good temporarily, in the long run, the backstabber will lose the confidence of her peers.

Backstabbing Friends: Backstabbing friends represent a different breed of underhanded schemes. It is hard to imagine what a friend can gain by backstabbing. Like a colleague, she/he believes she/he can gain an advantage in life. It might be by usurping a mutual friend closer to you. A friend that tells lies to take the upper hand wants to destroy your reputation. Even worse is the friend who reveals a confidence to others opening you up to all manner of finger pointing and gossip. When a friend backstabs the pain may be overwhelming. This is someone you trusted and believed had your best interests at heart just as you did hers. Discovering a dark side of a friend requires a new look at the friendship. Is a friend who backstabs worth keeping as a friend?

Learning how to deal with backstabbing is important to move on. Dealing with a backstabber at work requires a different strategy than dealing with manipulative friends. A backstabbing friend requires handling with kid gloves. If the friendship is over, then worrying about hurt feelings is moot. Meet the backstabber head on, but not until you can face her without anger spilling over. Be cool, calm and collected when you confront them. Expect everything and anything to be laid out on the table. Backstabbers often exhibit passive-aggressive behavior and tend to dislike confrontations. No one wants to feel the betrayal of backstabbing best friends or colleagues. It does happen and when it does make certain that you are prepared to deal with the backstabber in an appropriate manner. For friends, it may come down to cutting them out of your life. You will not have that option in the workplace. Finding ways to live with the backstabber or remove yourself from the situation. A good quote to live by “Living well is the best revenge.”

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