A vicious circle of life and relationships....

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I was speaking to few young girls from Degree College yesterday and one of them asked me “Why are relationships hard and why It seems that our life is full of difficulties in relationships with others (e.g. family members, friends, lovers etc.) Why do you think that is?

To which I said......

I heard this quote once, and it really hit home.  I wish I knew who to attribute it to... "Marriage is spending the rest of your life in a room that's too hot with someone who's spending the rest of her life in a room that's too cold." Relationships are hard because we naturally see things from our own standpoint and we have an easier said than done time seeing things from the other person's perspective.  As a result we leave the other person feeling like they are not appreciated, cared for, heard, etc, etc, etc.   Next time you're having trouble in any type of relationship, stop and try to put yourself in the other person's shoes.  What is it that he or she is looking for, what are the things that the other person values.  See if you can find a way to get what you need and at the same time, give that person some of what he or she needs.  Sometimes this means finding the middle ground, but sometimes this also means taking turns (you pick tonight's movie and I'll pick the next one). If we all are the same, life would be boring. My answer to why relationships are hard? It is because we choose to let them control us. I found that when I am easy going, I tend to let a lot of inconsequential things go by. I have learned that if something bothers me... say it to that persons face. I get it off my chest!  I am well liked from learning this peculiarity. I hold nothing back! (Except issues or anything that is discriminating and/or considered Harassment)People are quick-tempered sometimes.  And, we all have different likes and dislikes. I treat others how I want to be treated.

 To reduce the hard parts of a relationship all you can do is be totally candid from the beginning, say what you really want, don't want, and make it clear the relationship is not a reform school, they are getting you as is, and you are getting them as is.

Because of our human qualities relationships will always be messy. We come from different parents, schools, DNA, etc...

I know I sound like a relationship guru but nah it’s just Life experience and there’s no better teacher than life. Try. Whether you fail or succeed, it will be an experience :)

 Rab Rakha!!!!!