Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.

 

When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over.  There’s a big difference between giving up and starting over in the right direction.  And there are three little words that can release you from your past regrets and guide you forward to a positive new beginning.  These words are: “From now on…”

So, from now on…

Let the things you can’t control, GO: Most things are only a part of your life because you keep thinking about them.  Positive things happen in your life when you psychologically distance yourself from the negative things.  So stop holding on to what hurts, and make room for what feels right.  Do not let what is out of your control interfere with all the things you can have power over. 

Accept and embrace reality: Life is simple.  Everything happens for you, not to you.  Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late.  For everything you lose, you gain something else; and for everything you gain, you lose something else.  You don’t have to like it, but it’s just easier if you do.  So pay attention to your outlook on life.  You can either regret or rejoice; it’s your choice.

Change your mind: Change is like breath – it isn’t part of the development, it is the process.  In reality, the only thing we can count on is change.  And the first step toward positive change is to change your outlook.  Prepare for the positive.  Prepare for the new.  Allow the unknown to take you to fresh and unforeseen areas in yourself.  Growth is impossible without change.  If you cannot change your mind, you cannot change anything in your life.  Sometimes all you need to do is look at things from a different perspective.

Hold tight to the good things: When life’s struggles knock you into a pit so deep you can’t see anything but darkness, don’t waste valuable energy trying to dig your way out.  Because if you hastily dig in the dark, you’re likely to head in the wrong direction and only dig the pit deeper.  Instead, use what energy you have to reach out and pull something good in with you. For goodness is bright; its radiance will show you which way is up, and shed light on the correct path that will take you there.

Rest and regroup: Strength isn’t about bearing a cross of grief or shame. Strength is about choosing your path, living with the consequences, and learning from them. Sometimes you do your best and end up with a mess.  When this happens, don’t be dispirited.  You tried.  That’s really all you can ever do.  You have not failed; you just learned what not to do.  So rest, regroup, and begin again with what you now know.

Take chances: Making a big life change or trying something new can be scary.  But do you know what’s even scarier?  Regret.  So realise that most of your fears are much bigger in your mind than they are in reality; you’ll see this for yourself as soon as you face them.  Don’t let them stop you.  Live your life so that you never have to regret the chances you never took, the love you never let in, and the gifts you never gave out. 

Keep climbing: Every person who is at the top of the mountain did not fall there from the sky.  Good things come to those who work for them.  You gain confidence and grow stronger by every experience in which you truly push yourself to do something you didn’t think you could do.  If you are standing in that place of in-between, unable or unwilling to go backwards, but too afraid to move forward, remember that you can’t enjoy the view without being willing to climb.

Appreciate what you have learned: Nothing is more beautiful and powerful than a smile that has struggled through the tears.  Don’t regret your time, even the moments that were filled with hurt.  Smile because you learned from it and gained the strength to rise above it.  In the end, it’s not what you have been through that defines who you are; it’s how you go through it that has made you the person you are today and the person you are capable of being tomorrow.

Realise every step is necessary: Nothing is ever wrong.  We learn from every step we take.  Whatever you did today was a necessary step to get to tomorrow.  So be proud of yourself.  Maybe you are not as good as you want to be, or as great as you one day will be; but thanks to all the lessons you’ve learned along the way, you are so much better than you used to be. 

Rab Rakha!!!!!

Every newly married girl should do...

Observations made after watching young women fall into the entrap of considering marriage a life event that requires an entire refurbish of life. Yes, marriage is one of the more important things that most of us will get into during our lives, and yes, love and companionship are important, but not at the cost of losing one’s self. Yes, when two people live together, workarounds are needed on many things, but fine-tuning need not be a woman’s mantra alone.

Why are the days instantaneously post your marriage important? Because they set expectations. Of what you will do, and will not do. Of how you look ahead to be treated, and how you will treat others. Young women are often told that if they bend in the beginning, others will come around as time goes on. In my experience, this doesn’t happen – or – it takes too much time to happen. So, for young women who believe they are adults who’re owed the respect owed to all adults, here is my list of things every newly married Indian woman should do:

• Call your husband by his name. Startling as this may sound to some of you, I’m routinely coming across young Indian women who will not call the husband by his name, especially in the case of arranged marriages, but I’ve also seen this in love marriages where the spouses were classmates or colleagues pre-marriage. Shyness, tradition, deference to custom, call it what you will – I believe this is one unhealthy habit we have to drop.
• Keep your job: Young Indian women, even those already earning, are often encouraged to leave their jobs, if only for a short while, because they are resettling in a new place, or just to ‘adjust with the in-laws’. Big mistake. Given the economy, it’s always easier to find a job when you have one in hand. Plus, when you are staying at home post marriage, people start looking at you as a homemaker and before you know it, you’ll be signed up for religious trips, having visitors at odd hours ‘to see the new bride’ and roped in for multiple other ‘family obligations’. Not that there is anything wrong with being a homemaker, but if you want to go out to work, don’t get into that ensnare. Unless you are moving to a new place where you can’t find jobs until you are in the flesh there, don’t quit your job. Somehow, you feel stronger in a new relationship if you have your own money.
• Stay in touch with your friends: Yes, the newness of marriage can be exciting, but don't drop your friends. The things you had in common with them before marriage still exist, don’t they? Plus, every woman needs a sounding board other than her husband.
•  Make new friends: This is especially for women who move cities/countries post marriage. Take the effort to make some new friends – even if they are not your soul mates (yet), it helps to have someone to talk to, at work, in your neighborhood – or if these don’t work for you, join an activity that interests you. You think you’ll never be that woman, but horror stories abound of women caught in new countries, abused and isolated. Even if your marriage is hunky-dory, depression is a real thing for a woman grappling with a number of unknowns.
• Stay in touch with your parents: This should not even need saying, but in a country where many families have the paraya dhan concept internalized, women are often discouraged from calling/visiting their parents post marriage. Sometimes this is done perceptibly, sometimes slyly, in a kind of allusion that your ‘new family’ ought to be more imperative.
• Put your feet up: A friend of mine was once chastised for putting her feet up at her in-laws’ place – literally. I don’t necessarily mean it literarily, but remember to put your feet up – sometimes we internalize the fiction that respect comes from running around like a chicken with no head. It doesn’t. You’re as entitled to rest as any other member of the family, which brings me to.
• Don’t own the housework: Even in nuclear households, we see women quickening to take up all the chores at home. Right in the early days, don’t. If your husband doesn’t know to do anything (which is entirely possible, considering the way most Indian boys are brought up), talk to him about why this is important to you, and why he needs to learn. If the house is chaotic, let it be, and it’s quite possible the other person will start picking up. Don’t make the housework ‘your thing’ (unless you are the sort of person who enjoys doing housework for its own sake!)
• Be yourself: Be the best version of you that you can be, but be yourself. Don’t change for anyone like turning into a vegetarian or so after marriage….do what you like. If you are an atheist, don’t suddenly become the puja-paath doing good girl. The fiction becomes harder to break as time goes on. You can be respectful of differences without being different.
• Don’t tolerate violence:  I know  woman will go to any extreme to preserve a relationship, however abusive & cruel it is which is wrong the moment your husband or anyone from your in-laws raises your hand the best thing to do is to take action then itself so that it is never repeated again. Don’t give another chance if there's abuse, inform your family. Even if it's small. Because all small abuse gets huge.
• Dealing with Greedy husband and in-laws: Communicate your values to your in-laws& husband. All of your values and to all of your in-laws. And still if they make numerous demands after marriage report to your parents and the mediator who fixed this marriage as greediness never goes away it goes on multiplying with time its one aspect which no one can change and somewhere our Indian marriage system is responsible for it. These things need to be cleared before marriage so that you don’t get bolts from the blue later.

Rab Rakha!!!!!

As long as karma exists, the world changes. There will always be karma to be taken care of!

 "What goes around comes around" or "as you sow, so shall you reap" is the basic understanding of how karma, the law of cause and effect, works. The word karma literally means "activity." Karma can be divided up into a few uncomplicated categories -- good, bad, individual and collective. Depending on one's actions, one will reap the fruits of those actions. The fruits may be sweet or sour, depending on the nature of the actions performed. Fruits can also be reaped in a collective manner if a group of people together perform a certain activity or activities.

Everything we say and do determines what's going to happen to us in the future. Whether we act honestly, dishonestly, help or hurt others, it all gets recorded and manifests as a karmic reaction either in this life or a future life. All karmic records are carried with the soul into the next life and body.

There is no exact formula that is provided for how and when karmic reactions will appear in our lives, but one can be sure they will appear in some form or other. One may be able to get away with a crime they committed, or avoid paying taxes, but according to karma, no one gets away with anything for long.

Often, when something goes wrong in our lives, and it just doesn't seem to make sense as to why it happened, it can be very bewildering. We can just be left standing there without any answers. I remember a very difficult time in my life, which threw my life into a spin. I asked myself why this was happening, and I came up with three possible answers:

1. God is cruel for letting things happen the way they are.

2. Things are happening completely by random chance and that there is no rhyme or reason behind them.

3. Perhaps in some inconceivable way, I had a hand in my own suffering, even if I wasn't able to recall what I had done.

I didn't like option two because I just couldn't accept that things were moving about randomly. I always felt there had to be some kind of order to the universe. Since I grew up believing in God, I was ready to wholeheartedly accept option one because this option allowed me to point a finger and express my anger and frustration at someone who I had worshiped all my life.

In search for an answer, I started reading our holy book texts which hinted at option three. This was even more difficult than the first option because now I couldn't really point a finger at anyone other than myself. This broadened my horizons about life and encouraged me to take responsibility for my own actions and not to place blame. It explained that each of my previous lives has impacted my subsequent lives and is probably affecting my current life.

A karmic reaction, good or bad, may or may not become manifest in the same life. It may manifest in a future life. It's also possible to get hit with a few reactions -- positive or negative -- at the same time. The simplest analogy I can think of for how karma works is that of a credit card purchase. You make the purchase now, but don't get hit with the bill for 30 days. If you made several purchases during one billing cycle, then you'll get hit with one big bill.

The natural question that arises is: "Why am I getting punished for something from a previous live if I can't even remember it?" Of course, we don't ask ourselves why good things happen to us. We simply accept the good thinking we deserve it or that we've earned it. We forget a lot of things we've done in the past, so what to speak of things done in a previous life. The most important lesson to learn is that we can become more mindful of our present actions to prepare our families and ourselves for a more prosperous future, both materially and spiritually.

An important question we should ask is: "Do we really want to remember our past lives?" The pain of dealing with the hardships of this one life is difficult enough. We can only imagine how long we would actually survive if the weight of our previous lives' pain and suffering were compounded onto our psyche. For the most part, it's probably a good thing that most people don't remember what happened in previous lives, so that we can start to move forward in our present life.

Karma doesn't translate into indifference towards the suffering of others. The mood should never be "too bad, it's their karma." The predominating principle should always be that of sympathy and compassion.

This can seem like such a vicious cycle of action and reaction. It's practically impossible to live in this world without doing some wrong, whether out of anger, revenge, or just inattention. The teachings of Guru Granth Sahib are all about breaking this cycle of karma and transcending the material world and regaining entrance into the spiritual world.

Rab Rakha!!!!!

A vicious circle of life and relationships....

A big hello to all my readers and thanks a ton for so many hits on my blog from all parts of the world who have been reading it and writing to me time and again to update my blog.

When I started blogging little did I know that my blog would get so many hits and likes on different social platform and medium.

I was speaking to few young girls from Degree College yesterday and one of them asked me “Why are relationships hard and why It seems that our life is full of difficulties in relationships with others (e.g. family members, friends, lovers etc.) Why do you think that is?

To which I said......

I heard this quote once, and it really hit home.  I wish I knew who to attribute it to... "Marriage is spending the rest of your life in a room that's too hot with someone who's spending the rest of her life in a room that's too cold." Relationships are hard because we naturally see things from our own standpoint and we have an easier said than done time seeing things from the other person's perspective.  As a result we leave the other person feeling like they are not appreciated, cared for, heard, etc, etc, etc.   Next time you're having trouble in any type of relationship, stop and try to put yourself in the other person's shoes.  What is it that he or she is looking for, what are the things that the other person values.  See if you can find a way to get what you need and at the same time, give that person some of what he or she needs.  Sometimes this means finding the middle ground, but sometimes this also means taking turns (you pick tonight's movie and I'll pick the next one). If we all are the same, life would be boring. My answer to why relationships are hard? It is because we choose to let them control us. I found that when I am easy going, I tend to let a lot of inconsequential things go by. I have learned that if something bothers me... say it to that persons face. I get it off my chest!  I am well liked from learning this peculiarity. I hold nothing back! (Except issues or anything that is discriminating and/or considered Harassment)People are quick-tempered sometimes.  And, we all have different likes and dislikes. I treat others how I want to be treated.

 To reduce the hard parts of a relationship all you can do is be totally candid from the beginning, say what you really want, don't want, and make it clear the relationship is not a reform school, they are getting you as is, and you are getting them as is.

Because of our human qualities relationships will always be messy. We come from different parents, schools, DNA, etc...

I know I sound like a relationship guru but nah it’s just Life experience and there’s no better teacher than life. Try. Whether you fail or succeed, it will be an experience :)

 Rab Rakha!!!!!

A man who disregards and hits his lady is the world’s greatest “Numbskull& Eunuch”

Every day, many women die as result of physical, mental, emotional torture and yes due to dowry to-- that's nearly thousands killed every year. "That number might not mean anything to you...unless the woman was your mother, your sister, your daughter," 

Women should know that love doesn't abuse you. It shouldn’t hurt you. Love cannot be redefined into. Remember the first time he raises his hand on you stop it then and there...Love is happiness, not being neglectful, caring, being respectful, providing, having standards, kindness, standing up for the right things.

If he checks your phone or shopping receipts, keeps a unvarying check on you something isn’t right. Controlling your partner in any way is damaging. “Emotional abuse is like being continuously kicked in the shins. It can be worse than getting one punch in the face, and it cements itself.”

Any man that hits a woman is not a real man, he’s a coward. A husband’s job is to protect her and stop anything bad happening in his wife’s life.  Abusing your partner is the opposite of that.

Domestic violence is often ignored as it usually happens behind closed doors and it can seem easier not to get involved. Yet, domestic violence continues to affect 1 in 4 women at some point in their lifetime, regardless of their background, career, race or age, and it is vital that we do something to protect those directly affected by the cruelty.

I think it is important to stand up against what is often a hidden crime and get men who hit women behind bars.

I don’t want any other lady to go through what I did when my husband Rinupal Bajwa use to hit me, as I know how many deaths she dies when she goes through this suffering. I feel government should pass such a law where such men are castrated lawfully. This would be a good lesson who for others to who think of hitting their wife's or girlfriends.

Rab Rakha!!!!!

Introduction of the fraud family I was married to...

Many people who have been following my Blogposts, Twitter, etc have asked me time and again to write about the family I was married along with their names.  I got married in August 2014 in Mumbai with dreams of starting a new life and a future built out on love and trust in my new home. My parents were so assured that they were giving me into the hands of an educated guy; someone who would value their daughter and appreciate her.

After a few days of my marriage, not even a month I was evaluated on the dowry that I was given. My in-laws felt that it wasn’t enough – even though my dad had given all that he could. He had fulfilled every demand my in-laws had made and yet it did not satisfy them. My husband and in-laws felt that all that I had brought in with me was not enough. They were so disappointed that after a few months they began scheming on ways to end my marriage when I stopped asking my parents to fulfill their demands.

My resistance infuriated my husband and then he became violent. I hid his brutality from my parents thinking about their health. I never spoke of his foul behavior in worry that it would affect their health. My mother in law, sister in law and husband would summon me and make new dowry requests every day. Despite succumbing to their requests, my husband and in-laws treated me akin to a slave. They would snatch away my belongings. I was overburdened with domestic chores and on top of that, my in-laws’ attitude towards me left me emotionally and physically exhausted. But my husband would brazenly vindicate this abuse by saying, “I am giving you a roof, food, and shelter.”

My health started to deteriorate with each passing day. I had become an emotionally torn person. I became deprived of my individuality. With each day getting worse than the last, my life turned into a living hell. My marriage was completely devoid of any respect; I got none from my husband or his family. I was treated like a servant, was confined to the four walls of our house and was advised to ‘win hearts’ and not mope about my situation. Despite being his wife, I enjoyed no such place or position. There were restrictions laid upon me on going out by myself or my husband, and even staying in touch with my friends or family.

They wanted to exert control over every aspect of my life; I was forbidden from working or socializing and bound to them in every way. I was to say I felt suffocated it would be a gross understatement. I was imprisoned in my own house and would cry to my friend about my pain if I had the fortunate opportunity of talking to her. I would keep giving in to save my marriage and kept preventing the possibility of being a societal taboo; a divorced woman.

So here I introduce the fraudsters and con artists of my real life. Let me start with my mother in law first:

• Dalbir Kaur Bajwa(Mother-in-law): When you look at her for the first time, you would feel how well behaved and cultured this lady is. She will gain your confidence in the first meeting itself, with her true to life and big talks. Whereas the truth is for money this lady can go to any extent she conned her real sister by looting all her life savings and her flat. She is doing the same with her son in law and others. She often fools people by saying she is a widow and how she raised her kids without her husband. She is the main reason why her son and daughter have turned out like this. Her main maxim is to haul out as much money as she can to live a prolific life on other people's outlay. Ladies like her are a shame on motherhood& and being called a human being. She has a tendency of stealing and is a kleptomaniac which her real sister has also confirmed in a written statement given by her. Many times she stole money from my purse, my other expensive stuff like my cosmetics, footwear, jewelry, perfumes, etc. She was so domineering that many times she slept between both of us and didn’t allow her son as in my husband to speak to me or my parents. She after a few months of marriage when we were in Dubai told me to ask my dad to help them buy a flat in Dubai when I asked her why was this not asked or mentioned earlier she started calling me names. Whatever happened to me it was due to her and her daughter these two had done all the plotting of extracting dowry etc from me and my parents to satisfy their needs. She use to ask for a lot from my parents and later make a statement “Sanu Kuch ni Chaidha”. Off late, she has been doing the drama of paralysis and heart attack to dodge from police inquiries.

• Ritu Rai(Sister-in-law): She is someone when you meet her for the first time she will shower you with all the bogus love and blessings. Whereas the really she is wicked, evil, she is excellent at making fraud schemes and bringing them to implementation. She use to call me often at my workplace to squabble with me and very nattily use it to create a discrepancy between me and her brother (my husband). This lady is married to a man who is 4 years younger to her, in nine days they fell in love and seeing that he is from a well-off family she enforced him to get married to her. You would be shocked to know that her mother in law and sister in law were not present for her wedding. She went and booked the Gurudwara on her own with him so that she doesn’t miss out on this guy. They use to not allow me to speak to their other relatives as their glorious stories would come out. Ritu earlier wanted to marry her Massi’s sons (Aunt’s Son) as they were settled in Canada and her mother helped her in this so you can imagine what kind of people they are. When both Massi’s refused they started to look for other guys from rich families whom they could get her married to. She use to needle my husband as in her brother to beat me when she had come to Dubai and her to hit me when I tried to tell others what’s been happening with me.  Ritu’s husband had some case also against which my lawyer found out….here is the link (http://www.leicestermercury.co.uk/Gang-laundered-millions-fake-businesses/story-16837936-detail/story.html)  (http://www.leicestermercury.co.uk/Gang-laundered-millions-fake-businesses/story-16837936-detail/story.html#3) his name Deepak Rai his photograph is also printed in this above link. Her kids as in her daughters are following her footsteps they lie to people saying her husband is a very big businessman in Leicester and runs a factory which is again a lie. We believed them blindly which is our fault. The truth he is the 5^th pass and works in someone’s factory. Off late she is doing the drama of depression.

• Rinupal Bajwa(My Husband):  When I started speaking to him before marriage little did I know the man who appeared so sweet and so in love with me would turn out to be like this. All that mattered to him was my social status &money and nothing else. He often asked me to get a share in my father’s property after marriage.  I thought he loved me but no I was so mistaken.  He was just interested in my earnings and father's property. Later after marriage, I found about his drinking and smoking habits when I told his mother and asked her what is this I was told he does it out of stress and ask you, father, to help him by lending some money which gave me a shocker of my life.  Later it got worse when he started torturing me physically, mentally and emotionally. He kicked and punched me many times so that I myself leave the house and go. When I didn’t do so all three of them jointly threw me out of the house. His mother and sister use to ask him to go out and have relations as in go and sleep with other girls as well with Sonal Salvi to irritate me and make me feel jealous. When he use to lose his temper he use to hit me badly and well as just to frighten me he use to punch in the wall and do all sorts of things to terrify me as well as abuse me. He was about to get married to some other girl the cards were also printed but when the girl's family got to know what kind of pricks they are they called off the wedding and unluckily my family and I got conned.

 Some other traits of all three of them are:

Slapping themselves to prove their point and blackmailing by saying that their mother is a widow.

• Dalbir Bajwa & Ritu Rai buy alcohol&cigarettes for Rinupal Bajwa &Deepak Rai so you can imagine what kind of ladies they are. To show people they do path, another religious stuff and what not to show how much  god-fearing they are whereas the real them is poles apart

• Saying that their father was a very rich businessman but then they suffered losses and then gradually start by demanding money from others and promising them to return after a certain period or on monthly installments

• Saying Deepak Rai(Ritu Rai's Husband) runs a factory in the UK and is a rich businessman having a lot of property everywhere whereas he works for someone and is just a 5^th pass

• Being friends with the moneyed and eminent to add on to their class and extract money

• Stealing and asking for money in such ways that you can’t even think of

• Maintaining a bogus standard of living to show people they have huge contacts and to show a forged status

• Showering others with fake love and concern and then looting them

• To take the greatest benefit out from a person and then cut chords by blocking them on different social platforms so that their stories don't seep out

• Following the divide and rule, policy to create uncertainty in families or friends and slowly taking advantage of the situation

• To ask people to lend funds and then vanish after taking that money which Dalbir Bajwa takes advantage of due to her widow status and her old age

• They, in reality, advertise Rinupal Bajwa saying he is handsome and has a good job and then bit by bit start demanding funds in different forms

All three of them are fantastic actors and they can rip off anyone with their expressive drama and faces Beware…

Rab Rakha!!!!!

Be not another, if you can be yourself!

In this post, I want to question, do people around us know us? And why are we so afraid to be just ourselves.

I happened to read a quote on Twitter that said, “Inside every person you know, there is a person you don’t know.” How true is that! Sometimes, when we are going through a rough patch, we look at all the happy faces around us, and long to switch places not knowing if the picture is really as rosy as it appears.

Every person here has a world that we all see, and a world that we don’t. Every person here is not the person we really know! The lovey-dovey couple, holding hands while walking down the street, or in snapshots of their vacations, may as well be living a loveless life, their marriage on the verge of a breakdown. The display of affection may be just that – a display, a show put up for the world to notice them and nod its head in approval and amazement at a life filled with joy. We see the smiles on their faces and feel the pinch, when we find our own lives bereft of that love, that companionship. But, do we look closer, to see if their smiles reach their eyes?

The sunshine girl on your timeline, perpetually cheerful and full of energy, may be fighting demons of loneliness and despair. You’re most babble on friend, who enlivens the atmosphere at your friendly meets, may be battling frustration due to an unsuccessful career. The neighbor, who overwhelms you with her love and attention, may have a terrible life behind those closed doors. You never know! We, the social beings, rarely if ever, exhibit our true selves to the world with whom we socialize. And not just the world al fresco, but also the world, we live in close propinquity with – our family, our close friends. Our parents know us, but to a certain extent, and so do our siblings, with whom we grew up. Our partners often claim to know us, but, really, do they? Our closest friends, with whom we share our innermost feelings think that they know us well, know our secrets well, but do we really share every story of ours, every scar, every tear with them, either?

Impressions can be deceiving. It is a line that often comes to my mind, especially when I look at photographs shared on the social media. True. All that glitters is not gold. Every smile may not bloom from the bottom of the heart. It may just be pasted up there, on the face, for effect. So, why is it that we hide our true selves from our people? Why do we forget that we are all humans, with our own set of weaknesses, our idiosyncrasies, our handicaps? We all have a different life, a different story, which is not perfect in any way. Then, why the constant effort at putting up a facade of a perfect life? What is it that we would gain from this spuriousness?

I think, it is the fear of losing out on friendliness from our loved ones were they to see our true sides, which keeps us from sharing ourselves wholly with them. We believe in the aphorism, laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone so much, that we fear being alienated lest we reveal our true selves. I wish we could open ourselves up, to the people who care about us, who share their world with us. Hiding behind a mask can be taxing. Living our entire lives wrapped up in a garb of pretense can leave us fatigued. Not only that, after a period of time, the line between reality and make-believe blurs, leaving us confused, muddled up. Why can’t we accept our life as it is, and be proud of it? Why don’t we stop pining for a perfect world? Attain a perfect us? Life would be a lot easier, a lot clutter-free and a lot more genuine. But, the question is, do we have it in us to "come out of our closet?"

Give it a thought :) Life is short so stay true to yourself as well as others because sooner or later we all have to pay for our deeds in some manner or the other.

Rab Rakha!!!!!